mostly fetishes and chained up with weights i can't see how that is sexual or plessureable like it should ...

I don't know if there is a name for this, i saw a video on efukt where someone stuck the heel of their stiletto into someone's urethra. i don't get it. i do not want to understand.

That fetish is called "Sounding" ... fucking your urethra with objects and rods. It is really popular in some religious cultures that consider touching your own dick as a sign of "sinful homosexuality", so they fuck their dicks with objects instead, cause you don't have to touch your own dick in order to fuck it with a stiletto.

I remember a time, not long ago, when I didn't know anything about sounding or why people shoved objects into their urethra.
I miss that time. I can never go back.

Pissing and footship for me

I know there are are a lot i probably don't understand but the only one i've actually run into with someone i was dating is urine.

Foot fetishes - what is so sexually pleasing about somebody's toes? I won't kink shame but it doesn't make much sense to me. Also worshipping feet. I don't know.

Anything involving human excrement

Adults dressing up and/or acting like babies for sexual pleasure. Bit pervy.

pee/poo kinks...like why? also feet....how?! im sure there's others that i wont like but i've read so many doujins that i end up reading fucked up shit XD

just to edit this in.....gore and torture....like how? why? i read a really fucked up doujin with realistic art style that had it....i was not a happy camper to say....it was really really gross....even the comments were grossed out by it....wondering what kind of sane person even wanted to create such a thing!

Now this is one I can get with talking about lol. I actually utilize Imvu primarily these days for studying the psychology behind these different fetishes and things because my personality type is infp which means I put myself in your shoes internally I'm introspective. I like to experience the things that people get off on so I can understand why it gets them off and even if I can't get aroused by it myself personally I like people to feel like they can open up about who they really are and I try to give people that opportunity. The only ones that I can't respect after a certain point or are absolutely against moral guidelines and there's no helping me see it a better way would be pedo, furry which I can respect I just can't comprehend LOL, beastiality, there's a few others like forced it makes no sense to me how you can have consent given forced without it still being that letter r word. That's a sensitive topic for me, but I understand the domination part however I don't understand how women can say they want a man who's going to just take control or come out of nowhere and make her submit... Last I checked that ends you up in jail..
And not to mention how can you get consent and considerate forced that in itself is a double standard contradiction. I get simulating role playing it I can understand that much but to say you want a stranger to come out of nowhere grab you and force you and you're willing to sign it waiver.....

But if you don't look at what the different actions to the fetishes are but you look at what they stimulate or perceive I guess, you can understand them a lot more. Most of the time your kinks and fetishes come from trauma unfortunately. Most women who like to be treated like a piece of meat or abused as a child sadly. Now there are some like the typical preacher daughter who just goes off the panhandle and she gets free and that's fun but women who like to be dominated humiliated things of that nature it hurts my heart in it makes it really difficult on me especially on the game because everybody wants that really all it is is they want you to tell them what's happening and describe it so they can get theirs but you put in all the work is what I've come to the conclusion of. Even the female who claim to be dominant or mistresses when I try to get them to role play they want to be the to miss it I'm like are you serious? Or they want to humiliate most of the women that are into the dominant side have a subconscious hurt or negative drive because of trauma or being put down and trying to rise above it which is kind of where I personally come in the middle of that which is how I become a switch to a point. I refuse to acknowledge authority to be any better than me and I hate being controlled but at the same time when it comes to that I like to be a pleaser so I like to have some guiding not to mention a woman who knows what she wants and is willing to do work to teach to get it it's pretty fire