Nikky Maxim wrote:bipolar causes drastical mood swings that he cannot control . The problem is one day he says he needs me the other day he says that i am not what he wants . The problem is that i dont know what to do like i said i do not want to leave him , i was with him for 11 months now .
Why I am qualified to answer this question: My wife was bipolar; and she left me after 3.5 years because..."I made her feel guilty by loving her too much; and she found another man".
We were also in a BDSM relationship. I still love her, and what you mention above is something I experienced.
Answer: When a master / mistresses calls their slave a slut for no reason, it is because they want to make you feel dirty / hurt / humiliated....because that is what masters / mistresses do. They are sadistic. Embrace it, let it bother you on the outside, but know on the inside that he is just doing his job. It is making him happy to see you hurt. Be a slut only to him, ignore other guys,...and you will do fine.
As for the mood swings; be extremely submissive and watch for what triggers them. You may think they are random, but even with bipolar people, there tends to be little triggers that you have to watch for. Try to predict his time of the month, so you are ready for them. (yes, men have a time of the month when their hormones are out of wack too)
If you want reassurance, just have him confess on a good day that even when he denys that he wants you, that he still loves you and wants you; it is just the bipolar kicking in. Then remember that, remember what he said. It will keep you sane.
If you are not what he wants, ask him what he wants, and give it to him. As his slave, that is your duty. If he does not know what he wants, then go all out to do everything he likes. If you do not know what he likes, then you need to bond with him more through communication.