Once a friend, now a bully

TooTrusting
by TooTrusting · 7 posts
7 years ago in Help & Support
Posted 7 years ago · Author
I don't want to trouble you, but I'm running out of ideas what to do.
I run a small, fairly new strip club on imvu and one of the high ranked girls helped me out a lot, I thought of her as a friend and I even had contact with her outside of it (Skype, Discord).
However once it was brought to light that she's been abusive to everyone bellow her (meaning everyone but my spouse) and that she broke rules without a shred of regret, she had to be let go.
And now she's sending me messages trough her family, nasty messages, even filling out the application for girls in a manner that would mess up my overall results.

If the threat was coming from just one source, then blocking would help, but she has an extensive family which I don't even know much of and she knows the system well enough to not message me from one account twice. I blocked everyone I remember and I blocked/removed her on other platforms, but I don't believe she'll stop...

Can you help me?
Posted 7 years ago
Reluctently IMVU is filled with alot of trash. Occassionally you will run across people that are good and that you can truelly trust. You situation is well same thing as several people have been dealing with for a long time and well reporting it to be honest IMVU will do nothing just a slap on the hand maybe. I see you have blocked her as well as most of her family members which is about all you can do and just keep blocking. Now as far as applications for the strippers in your room...If your applications are in your group page as most place them then make sure she is not in the group and change up your questions so that she does not know what they are. Then instruct your strippers if they are found to associate with anyone of said person Do not post it but say it to them when you are with them let them know that she is a trouble maker and if they are found to associate with her or even listening to her then they can just move on down the road.

There are alot of people that have nothing better to do with thier time then to harass other people for thier enjoyment as they are bored with thier lives or they are themselves a victem in real life of harassment and figure it makes them feel better to be someone no one knows and put the shoe on the other foot. In any case a person that harasses is a person only trying to make themselves feel better so try to ignore it and eventually they will leave you alone. You react to it then they feel they have you and will continue on.

Then if you want to get down on thier level then well spread crap about her as she slept with everything that came in there she did not only strip but provided other services both on and off IMVU Just remember if you post it do not use her name refer to her as her the stripper or w/e just never use thier name. or pick a pet name..and use that but one on one people as to who you are refering to so they know.

But all in all two wrongs don't make a right so best advice is to ignore it all and just block all that come at you and warn the girls/guys you have stripping for ya and new applicants tell them they wish to listen to others then they can just move on down the road and not waste your time.


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Posted 7 years ago
Keep blocking any account she messages you on. If you use IMVULite or T3DE you can also mute any account she uses so you can't see their avi or messages in chat.

Keep screenshots of any nasty messages you get as proof and report everything to IMVU. It's a long shot but everything helps and not doing it won't help at all.

As for your application form, is it hosted on a website? If so do you have control over the site? You could possibly IP block her from using it.
Posted 7 years ago · Author
So I've blocked all of her attempts of contacting her and all of her family... However now she started to send messages to my friends..

Here's a picture a friend showed me. She's a dancer at my club. And she's not the only one - one more came to me with very similar message...

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Needless to say, what's written above is not true in the slightest, but it still creates seeds of doubts...

I can't make my friends block her too, as technically, she hasn't hurt them... I'm lost..
Posted 7 years ago
I looked into the name you inboxed me...she's young foolish and really inexperienced..She's nothing and has nothing and by seeing alot of things she is very confused. She has something to hide as everything about her she keeps hidden. So she likes to create problems and yet hides herself so no one can get back at her. Think about this this person even though they say they are bi there is a good chance they may either be male or someone way younger then what the age they claim to be on thier card. Looking at thier pics there is a few in there that could be flagged for being AP and not GA pics. They are a crappy Dev. Sorry had to throw that in...lol..She just harasses to try and build herself up as all in all she is a very lost and confused person SO....Block her as you have done and ignore her...Now in your group page where I am assuming you have your Application for strippers Notate at the bottom of the application that this person list the name as it is your group page and is technically offsite of IMVU post thier name and state that this person is known to create problems and state things that are untrue and that anyone found listening or in association with said person that it is grounds for auto termination from said group and employment from your room. All in all not really someone to worry about as I said she is a person that is all talk and nothing more. And if a person has to do that to be liked by others then simply they are not worth the heart ache. You can't control the actions of others nor what others listen to but at least show them you are the better person and don't need to stoop to thier level. Keep your chin up smile and simply ignore. I'll still visit her on my play alt to see what she is about and get a better reading on her but for now just forget about her.
Posted 7 years ago
Have you thought of incorporating a block list? Meaning dancers are aware of who is blocked and why they are blocked. Some dancers might even find it useful to block such people on their own, but I wouldn't go so far as to make it mandatory. You could also try talking to other owners of clubs and get her black listed from strip clubs. Believe it or not, there is a HUGE network and strip clubs love to keep out the trash. There is even a group for owners of strip clubs. I'd try to contact them for support as well. I did this when I owned ad operated my own line of strip clubs. I hope this helps. If you need to know who to contact for the group, I have names, just PM me.

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