Sometimes if you look at a woman's avatar her KBs are sometimes between 2500 and 3000. If you look it is not because she is trying to overload the room but she is trying to make her avatar look beautiful for someone. I have stripped down my avatar and started to transform my noob avatar into a beauty. First you place the eyes, the skin, then you do the head resizer if needed and/or neck adjuster, shoulder adjuster, hips, thighs..etc to get her proportions right. then you have where she puts on her eyebrows then her eyelashes then if needed the small hands and then nails. Then you choose which hair you want. Now all this is placed before you even get to the clothing by this time you are probably already sitting at 1900 or 2000 kbs and thats just for the structure of her. Then you choose her clothing then her shoes then the accessories by now you are anywhere from 2500 kbs to 3000 kbs.. So as you see alot of times a woman with high kbs is only trying to look her best in her avatar and by no means trying to weigh the room down. This is something that you need to take into consideration when viewing a woman with high KBs..but then you do get those that place a over abundance of tats and piercings etc on themselves that do raise thier KBs as well as some items lets face it some dev's do not know how to keep thier KBs down on a item as I have gotten hairs that are over 1000 kbs so a hint to Dev's on how to lower Kbs when Deving..make your textures at least 250 x 250. the smaller the texture tile the less kbs your item will have and help those that do stack on things to wear to be able to do so without raising thier kbs to high. Now I could not tell you on why a males would be over 1500 kbs other then he has VBs on as well as Music or other stupid items that he does not need on all the time unless it is called for.
Sometimes...and I mean sometimes if you are in a room they normally will post the KB limits to keep the room less laggy but if you see someone that is over the limit if you can whisper them politely and ask them if they would mind lowering thier kbs or ask the Room owner or moderator to whisper them to do so.. Never call them out as that will only piss them off and well thier kbs will go higher or attitudes will steam up. If you feel you have to make a comment outloud then simply just state that the room is very laggy and you had a tough time loading in that would be a que to any mod or room owner to take a look at peoples kbs and letting them handle it. So don't ask the Room owner or mods to boot them as normally there is a simple explanation or a fix for the problem.
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