Seriously bad breath....
No really. It's hard to be cordial and in someone's face when you're recoiling every time they speak...

The biggest red flag for me is not knowing how to communicate. I hate when you talking to a person and they respond with a oh,ok,yea. Not knowing how to express yourself without arguing is a no for me. A grown person acting like a child is a Big no for me . A lot of stuff is a red flag for me because if you act like that while we are just friends or talking i know how you would act in a relationship. A person that begs is a big walking red flag and if you play imvu you know it’s a lot of walking red flags .

Lack of curiosity and learning. I hate being around people that aren’t trying to grow and learn, regardless of age. These are people that feel threatened by other people’s success, and never admit their own mistakes. It’s incredibly off-putting and sadly common, especially in business where I meet managers or executives that are so worried about not “looking dumb” that they never experiment or learn.

I’ve had wonderful conversations with people from different religions, political views, etc where things were civil and the topics interesting. The common denominator is that they are open to the idea that they are not “done” learning new things, so new ideas and information is not a threat, but a gift.

In contrast, the person who is “done” is never happy when presented with a new line of thinking or new evidence. This is seen as proof that they might be “wrong” and that is never tolerated.

Me too.. I really dont kike those "k" ppl.. Or "aight".. I need attention.. Everyone does.. And a good amount of it.. It gives you an idea about how important you are to a person.. For me i like it when people tells me everything and share their thoughts in lengh.. Yes it might get tiring or sometime life get to us and need some simplicity to speak of.. But honesty is key.

The older I've gotten, the more I've understood "VU Only" people. Not even because people get cold feet over appearance, though stupid comments about the number of tattoos and/or having stretched ears got tiring. But because most people who insist on sharing a bunch of RL stuff, especially how you look are red flags more often than not.

At best they're the fuckboy types who think you want to date an internet stranger, or think asking for nudes and sending dick pics is okay. At worst they're insufferable and needy cling-ons who have no social skills or friends and want every waking moment of your attention.

TL;DR: Don't share RL stuff and what you look like unless you're VERY good friends with someone. In my case, I have a few friends if 5+ years that know what I look like and vice versa.

Auspicious K wrote:

At worst they're insufferable and needy cling-ons who have no social skills or friends and want every waking moment of your attention.

I feel called out

Don't worry, I don't feel like you own a fedora and a trench coat (with a side of cheap katana and trading/gaming cards). ..and yes, I have had the misfortune of dudes like that in my DM's who thought my tattoos or piercings were "too much" or "a little weird". Unlike them, I am also confident you know what deodorant is.

I dumped all that nerdy stuff before I left high school. I'm not a fan of tattoos or piercings either but that only matters if I'm trying to date you. I wouldn't go around telling people they have too many just because..but I would bring it up if they wanted to go out. Being sick and mostly stuck in bed for a week, I've had to get real familiar with deodorant. Especially with my sinuses causes a distorted sense of smell.

For me its lack of communication and not wanting to be around you if you are both on. You want to hang with your friends, cool, invite me and let me meet them, or is there something your trying to hide from me -_-

-- Sat Feb 01, 2025 3:03 am --

DataMine wrote:

@Auspicious K
Auspicious K wrote:At worst they're insufferable and needy cling-ons who have no social skills or friends and want every waking moment of your attention.
I feel called out

Damn i feel called out too

I absolutely despise when someone says "k". I usually either respond with "lmnop" or nothing at all. A big red flag for me is attitude. From my expirience, the ones that are the most stuck up, probably have 15 people they are playing in their dms.
Imvu kind of inspires that though I suppose. Also, if your meeting, and they talk about their ex in the first convo.